To be a mom these days is to live with self-doubt.

The never-ending dos and don'ts from friends, family and parenting websites certainly don't help.

Our lives are filled with choices, big and small. Should I have given in to the extra chocolate chip cookie? Am I helping too much with homework -- or too little? Will this damage my kids emotionally? Will that turn them into spoiled slackers?

But once in a while, the self-doubt clears, and you enjoy a well-deserved moment when you're able to proudly say: I'm doing right by my kids. I made a difficult choice, but it will help my son or daughter become a more capable, confident human being. Or, I handled that crisis better than I thought!

For Mother's Day, we'll publish readers' stories about these real-life aha moments, the times you said or did the right thing. What you share will be a tribute to the important job of parenting. It could also reassure and inspire others.

Send your stories of up to 200 words to mross@bayareanewsgroup.com by April 23. Put "Mom's Day" in the subject line.

We'd also love photos. They need to be JPEGs, 400 KB or larger.

-- Martha Ross